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An important message to heterosexuals, listen carefully: you do not, and I repeat do NOT, have to marry someone you actively dislike, don't enjoy spending time with and/or whose hobbies you despise. You do not have to do that!! stop doing that!!!
"hahaha I hate my wife and made an entire room of the house dedicated to evading her company"
"hahaha I hate my husband and I drink industrial quantities of wine to cope with having had kids with him"
MAYBE STOP?
Please marry a friend - someone you love spending time with, someone you can tell your secrets to, someone you enjoy sharing physical space with.
The attraction often fades, or becomes secondary to most other real life practicalities. But the need to be a team and to enjoy each other's company is life-long.
Marry a co-conspirator. Marry a friend. Marry someone you can be weird and silly with. Marry someone who you aren't embarrassed to be vulnerable around. Marry someone who will make you tea at 6 a.m. when you're sick and still have to go to work. Marry someone who you can ride on a train with for ten+ hours. Marry someone who will clean up the cat barf or dog poop or diaper for you, because you just sat down to dinner. Marry someone who will treasure your art. Marry someone who understands that you both are going to change, and wants to be intentional about growing together. Marry someone whose vision of the future and core values matches yours.
Marry a friend, y'all. It's the best choice I ever made.



















